You can never be everything to everyone, but you can be everything to yourself. That is a goal worth striving for. Still to this day I am judged in matters of hair, not in my real life, but online.
Judged for not showing my hair loss.
Judged for not having enough hair loss (in another person’s eyes) if I show parts of my shaved head (to my comfort level), and then being told I have a lot of hair – when in reality, I very much don’t. I’ve had hair loss for 22 years, and the pain I have gone through is literally documented on my site. This was not an easy road for me.
I still don’t understand how women (with hair loss) don’t realize those type of comments ( to me or anyone else) are completely dismissive of another woman’s reality, experience, pain and journey.
No one chooses to wear the hair cut I have because it is an ACTUAL choice by virtue of having tons of hair. It is only a choice in that I choose to not suffer from my hair loss anymore, so I cut it/shaved it, the way I have in order to be able to live my life, and wear my wigs, since many of my wigs require using some bits of hairline and the hair around my ears to integrate.
Judged for speaking a message of acceptance. There is no cure for Androgenetic Alopecia, and that fact remains true whether I state it or not. Treatments, Yes. Cure… No.
That being said, we can absolutely live with hair loss, and not be owned by our hair loss, I am living proof of that, as are MANY other women.
Judged for my wigs.
The point of telling you this, is nothing is ever going to be enough for everyone, it just isn’t.
We face judgement in our lives all the time, it’s a harder pill to swallow when it comes from trying to do the best for others, to help others, but judgement is judgement and there is no escaping it in life.
Women are often paralyzed to make choices to help themselves or speak their truth because they fear judgement from others.
Judgement from others will ALWAYS exist even if you really try to do everything right. You need to live your life, and do what YOU need to do, for YOU.
Be kind to yourself, be kind to others.
Much love!
XOXO
~Y
